The point is not whether gays are more or less racist than anyone else but what racism does to the gay community. There are gays from ethnic groups who want to come out but don’t exactly feel welcome in our community. This is a lose-lose situation I believe. The closet is not only damaging for individuals but for the gay community as well.

Thank you for writing this article. It’s important to keep the conversation on racism in the gay community going, as it is very much alive and well.

I would like to point out that it’s a bit problematic (as is insinuated in the article) to say that that Asians, and other racial minorities, are ‘foreign ethnicities.’ There are plenty of Asians who are Australian-born, Australian raised, and or Australian-naturalised citizens, and of course, plenty of Aboriginal people experience racism in the gay community too.

Not to mention that there, by this very same definition, people of European/Caucasian heritage would also be ‘foreign ethnicities.’

It’s important to notice how, in the gay community as well as in mainstream heterosexual communities, White people are seen to be ‘normal’ or ‘local’ (indeed, ‘Aussie’ tends to mean ‘White Australian’) while Asians and other people of colour are seen as ‘foreign’.

I believe most of us are like this because we don’t have the balls to stand up to the oppressors that are outside of our community so we take it out on each other instead.

What’s more that I find disgusting is how gay people are so mean to each other generally – In the work place I always witness gays deliberately being awful to each other but they seem to always overtly be loving to their straight colleagues.

Don’t get me wrong, I understand that some gays just don’t like each other etc. etc but this type of behaviour is WAY too common and out in the open.. it makes me wonder, if we are so socially deranged.. why on earth makes us believe we can take on board such roles in society (that hold a HUGE responsibility) like parenting, marriage and the like? Actually can somone answer this for me? hmmm????

1.This site isn’t about forcing anyone to do anything … we are interested in challenging your preconception.”
“We’re not saying you’re supposed to change your preference or your way of looking at things. It’s just that common decency seems to have disappeared off the net,”
I was just reading about Apartheid which existed because white people wanted to live as far away from black people as was possible, keeping them in their place. Many countries have boycotted SA for this on moral grounds. Most (white) people I know and read about support these actions at the same time claiming one can not tell anyone what to do to make it easy for themselves and other white people to keep blacks or other undesired groups in their place,as far away from them as possible.Looking at something differently is the key to changing ones’behavior. Schizophrenic?

2.“Sometimes people don’t even realise they’re making those subtle things … it’s just what they’ve grown up with or what has evolved in a community’s perception which is unfortunate,”

Stating “no Asians” is not subtile. It’s blatant. If this bloke wants to know more about the subtile ways he should ask me.
And racism is always learned. So of course they behave because they either have grown up with it or pick up these ideas and behavior from their peers. This was almost like saying:”white people have little melanin in their skin”which of course is the case because that is what makes them white.

3. Education is the key. While we are a largely successful multicultural society, we often don’t have the skills to challenge or stamp out racist-speak, behaviour or conduct,”

I hope he is not serious. I will drink a full bottle of detergent if most of the white people culpable of these remarks were not taught “we are all the same (on the inside)” and “we should all be friends” and “only the skin is different” and were taught what happened in WW2 and throughout American history and it may never happen again and STILL have these attitudes and convictions that make them say, act and most of all THINK this way.
If you aim your arrows only to the expressions, you will miss the actual goal. Racism exists in minds primarly, so that is what needs to be changed.

And yes, Jay. Not dating people on the basis of their ethnic-related appearance in modern society is an indication of racist stances.

I have done my own research on this which was published on a webiste. Let me know if you are interested.

You can download and browse through some of the stories at

If there was some real appropriate prioritisation in ‘the community’ we would stop giving so much prominence to ‘gay marriage = equality’ and focus closer to home on challenging some of these real (but uncomfortable) issues.

I even heard a supposed drag queen funny performer in Stonewall refer to Oprah Winfrey as a’ni***r’ when she visited: filthy, arcane language that produced a laugh in the audience – shameful.

Leaders and organisations in ‘the community’ highlighting and challenging more of the prejudices this article highlights would empower people more to push back where they encounter it and make the small minded bigots who exercise it wake up to themselves.

Meh, I’m use to it though, my Welsh grandparents wouldn’t even see me at the hospital when I was born until my dad’s sister told them I didn’t come out black. (my mother has olive skin)

What I mean is, if you choose to be that way (discriminatory) fine your choice, but think it don’t SAY (or type) it. As it goes from acceptable to just plain rude and nasty.

Unfortunately gay people can be catty and rude and it disappoints me greatly as has for years. Now I’m in my late 30’s I see how gay guys in their early 20’s can be quite agist. I had a young guy come up to me at the shift looking interested and asked how old I was, I was 33 at the time and said so and he physically recoiled, screwed up his face and walked off. I’d have been offended if it wasn’t so amusing. Guys who are racist or agist or place emphasis on looks or big dicks or butch or femme mannerisms are not worth your time.

There’s decent good guys out there for relationship or friendship and you find them eventually. As for a portion of gays being mean, you’re not gonna change them, unfortunately age makes them meaner and meaner as the years go on. Just smile to yourself knowing they’re miserable and that’s why they’re so catty amd judgemental and discriminatory. And they’ll never get to experience the exotic adventures you can have when you see men as men and ignore the race, colour or whatever ‘turn off’s you think you might have.

Some of my best sexual experiences have been with guys I wouldn’t have predicted I’d have any kind of chemistry with and it was a big eye opener and it completely changed my outlook. Chemistry between two people (especially that dynamo sexual one) is unpredictable and doesn’t discriminate, so nor should you or you’ll miss out on some mind blowing experiences.